*This post, Raising Strong Women, was originally published on Motherhood and Merlot*
We live in a tough day and age as women. Yes, we are in a better position than we were 50 years ago. But still, it isn’t the same as being a woman in specific situations today. If you are a mom of girls, as I am, it is important that we raise our daughters to be strong and independent, and to teach them that being a woman is nothing short of amazing. If you have boys, we wrote a post for raising boys too.
Raising Strong Women as Moms of Girls
As a mom of three girls, I have heard just about all there is to hear when it comes to how “girls should be raised.” Let me preface this by saying that there are a lot of things that I agree with when it comes to raising daughters. But, there are some things that I do NOT agree with, and these are things that some women might not see eye-to-eye with me on.
As a Christian and someone who has been raised in the church, I know the value and importance of a woman and her relationship with her husband. I want my daughters to know that when they grow up, whatever man God puts in their life is someone to be trusted, respected, and cherished.
However, I will never teach my daughters that they are lesser than any man. I won’t ever raise them and tell them to believe that they have specific roles and men have specific roles. I think that this mindset is taking us backwards in the ways of society.
Now, I will be the first to admit that my husband and I have certain “roles” in our family. But, these roles are mine by choice. I wanted to stay home with my children until my degree is finished, which at that point I will be excited to work. I don’t mind cleaning and cooking because I am a clean freak and my husband isn’t big on cooking. My husband does not sit at the head of our table, or in any set spot really, because those extremely traditional ways are not what I want my girls to grow up seeing.
This has nothing to do with me not respecting my husband and what he does for our family, because I have the utmost respect for him. We are partners and equals. I am not under him in my “place” in our family.
Those aren’t roles that have been set in our household because of society. Those are what we have decided is best for our family, which is what I will raise my daughters to believe. They have a right to choose whatever style of life that they want. They are not constricted to specific “female roles in the household.”
There are a few characteristics of strong women, aside from the ability to choose their paths for themselves, which I work hard to teach my daughters as I am raising them. The right to stand up for themselves, the ability to be independent, but also the ability to be dependent and vulnerable when it comes to it.
Vulnerability and emotion are not weaknesses of women, as many men would think. They are what make us strong. They give us a backbone and they give us the ability to see and feel things that give us confidence and strength.
I know so many women who are forging a path for themselves. They are small business owners, they are big business owners, they make things, they are boss ladies, and they are amazing. It has been a pleasure and an honor to know so many of these women, to learn from them, and to show my daughters what strong women can become.
Raising our daughters to be strong women is something that we, as parents, have to work hard to do. We cannot let them learn from others or learn from what they see on television or in society. It is our job to make sure that our girls know that they can do and be anything they want.
They can be super heroes because all women are strong. Let us all become mothers who pride themselves on raising strong women.