We are heading into fall, which means back to school and busier weeknights. My husband and I both work, but gathering around the dinner table together is a tradition we take seriously. I love catching up on everyone’s day, especially chatting with my sweet kids. But while my son is getting older, his answers sure are getting shorter. When he was younger, he would tell us everything he did. In detail. Now when I ask him about his day I am lucky if I get a one word, “Good.”
I read an article that said you should ask your child, ‘What was your favorite part of your day?’ to get a conversation going, since it is more specific. Except my son has the same answer everyday. ‘Playing outside.’ Um, ok. Good talk.
Now I have a list of questions that I have found REALLY get the conversation going. Sometimes I ask one, other times I need 2 or 3 to get a good idea of what he did. But I definitely hear much more about his day.
Here’s 10 of my favorite conversation starters to get your kids talking:
- Who did you play with on the playground at school today & what games did you guys make up? (there is ALWAYS some sort of crazy game that was invented that day, I get a real kick out of hearing these)
- Who did you sit with at lunch and what did they have to eat?
- Who did something really funny & what did they do? (another one of my favorites…)
- What was the hardest thing you did at school today? (this one also helps me figure out what he may be struggling with)
- Did you learn any new jokes or songs today?
- When you got home from school, what did you do that you wish someone took a picture of?
- What is the craziest thing your sister did today?
- What do you think was Punky’s (our dog) favorite part of the day?
- Tell me something you did today that made another person smile?
- Tell me something someone did today that made you smile?
I find out so much more about my son and his day when I ask a few of these specific questions. I learn about his friends, inside jokes and much more. What are some questions you ask your child to help get more than a one word answer?